“I wish I had your confidence.”
It’s something I hear a lot. People tell me they admire how outgoing I am and wish they could be the same.
Here’s the thing: you can!
I firmly believe that we’re all confident. After all, confidence is nothing but a feeling of being sure of yourself and your abilities. It’s not arrogance, just a realistic certainty that you can do whatever it is you need to do. So you have the potential to be confident – it’s all about unlocking an understanding that you can do whatever it is you need to do.
Confidence isn’t about never feeling nervous or afraid. Do you want to know the last time I felt fearful?
I went out with my husband and as we approached the pub, I felt really, really nervous. I might be comfortable performing on stage, but sitting down with a group of people and being sociable? The thought terrifies me! I’ve never been great at navigating group dynamics and conversations, and I had visions of it being like so many other occasions – me sitting in a corner by myself while everyone has fun around me. In fact, I even took my Kindle with me, so I could read if I didn’t get involved in any interesting conversations.
As it turned out, I had a lovely time.
This is the thing. Up until recently, I felt afraid pretty much all the time. I’d say that fear has been a constant companion for most of my life.
It’s just that I don’t give it any power over me.
There are things I know I can do and do well. I can get up on stage and sing without batting an eyelid. I’ve been performing since I was a toddler and over the years, anything that can go wrong has. And you know what? I’m still alive. The world hasn’t ended. Nothing bad happened and in fact I have some funny stories to tell as a consequence. Once you survive singing a song where you’ve forgotten both the words and the tune, you realise it really isn’t so bad when things don’t go how you planned. And most of the time, nothing goes wrong and I just have an amazing time.
Then there are things I’m nowhere near as confident in – like going out and hanging out with a group. But I’ve done it enough times that I know that the worst thing that can happen is no one talks to me and that’s okay. I have my Kindle and I get to read a good book! But that’s a rare occurrence. Most of the time, I end up really enjoying myself. In fact, I’ve found that the more I dread doing something, the more fun it turns out to be!
Knowing how horrible it feels to be afraid of doing something and how good it feels to conquer that fear, I’ve put together a workshop on how you can be more confident in any situation. Watching my students increase in confidence with every chakra dance meditation class has been such a beautiful experience and I want to build on that.
I’ll be sharing a range of tips and techniques I’ve personally used to work on my confidence so that I’m not just faking it on the outside – I feel confident through and through. We’ll be using mindful movement, meditation, journaling, self-awareness and other approaches to help you identify what’s been holding you back and supporting you to power through those blocks.
And so you can pay full attention without having to worry about making notes, there’ll be a replay available for all attendees so you can rewatch as many times as you need to fully assimilate what you’ve learned.
I’d love for you to join me and discover just how much you’ve got to feel confident about – you’re amazing, you are!
Tickets for the masterclass in confidence are available now. If you can’t wait until April 29th to improve your confidence, you can always join us at a chakra dance meditation class – dancing the solar plexus chakra is a great way to help you feel comfortable and confident in who you are.